【家长专栏】 小学项目协调员Cherie老师: 如何善用假期帮助子女？

跟子女有良好沟通和鼓励他们自由表达自己需求的家庭，能让孩子相信自己的感受和想法被重视，从而提高他们的自尊心。自尊心低的孩子在沟通上容易屡屡碰壁，令他们难以建立牢固的人际关系，进一步降低了他们的自信心。

Families practicing effective communication and encouraging children to openly discuss their needs and wants makes a child believe that their feelings and thoughts matter, in turn increasing their self-esteem. Children with low self-esteem often struggle with communication, making it difficult to develop strong relationships, further lowering their self-confidence.

有些孩子由于人际沟通技巧不足而难以掌握解决问题的能力。当孩子能够就一个问题有效地与别人交流时，他们比较会解决问题并找出方法。尝试让你家孩子参与家庭决策，从而帮助他们学会解决问题的方法。

Some children have difficulty with problem-solving because of underdeveloped communication skills. When a child can communicate about an issue effectively, they are more likely to work through a problem and choose a solution. Consider involving your kids in household decisions to help them learn to navigate problems and solutions. 

当孩子感到被认同时，他们不会为了吸引大人注意力而采取发脾气等恼人的行为。很多与问题行为相关的动机其实都可以透过有效的親子沟通策略纠正。
 

When a child feels recognized they are less likely to act out to get attention. Many motivations associated with problem behavior can be rectified and replaced with effective communication strategies.

稳定、可控、有效的沟通将加强人际关系，帮助孩子变得更加自信，并信任身边的人。

Steady, controlled, effective communication will strengthen relationships which helps children become more self-confident and increase trusts on the people around them.

腾出时间沟通交流对于家庭来说是非常重要的。你们可以在车里聊天、关掉电视一起吃晚饭、安排非正式或正式的家庭会议，讨论影响家庭的重要议题、睡前与孩子交谈。只要腾出时间，其实与家人沟通的方式没有限制，可以天马行空。

It is extremely important for families to make time to communicate. Talk in the car; turn the TV off and eat dinner together; schedule informal or formal family meetings to talk about important issues that affect your family; and talk to your children at bedtime. There are many creative ways to make time to communicate with other family members.

健康的家庭以真诚直接的方式交流他们的想法和感受。在试图解决家庭成员之间出现的问题时，这一点尤其重要。拐弯抹角和隐晦的沟通不仅不能解决问题，还会导致家庭成员之间缺乏感情维系。

Healthy families communicate their thoughts and feelings in a clear and direct manner. This is especially important when attempting to solve problems that arise between family members. Indirect and unclear communication will not only fail to resolve problems but will also contribute to a lack of emotional bonding between family members.

做一个积极的倾听者需要尽力理解对方的观点。无论你是在听另一半还是孩子说话时，都要细心观察他们的语言和非语言信息如面部表情或其他肢体语言。最重要的是，你必须了解和尊重对方的观点。

Being an active listener involves trying your best to understand the point of view of the other person. Whether you are listening to a spouse or a child, it is important to pay close attention to their verbal and non-verbal messages. As an active listener, you must acknowledge and respect the other person's perspective.

善于有效沟通的人也会观察与家庭成员对话时的非言语行为。例如，孩子可能口是心非，嘴里说一套，但从他们的面部表情或肢体语言看出另一套。在这样的情况下，父母要知道孩子的内心感受。

Effective communicators also pay close attention to the non-verbal behaviors of other family members. For example, a child may say something verbally, but their facial expressions or body language may be telling you something completely different. In cases such as these, it is important to find out how the person is really feeling.

试着保持开放的心态，积极的态度看待各种事情。鼓励孩子积极沟通的同时，父母也要在家里当担正面沟通的好榜样。

Try to keep an open mind and look at situations positively. Encourage your child to communicate and model positive communication in the family.

祝大家新年快乐！恭喜发财！

Have a great holiday and Gong Xi Fa Cai!