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开学季|亲子沟通锦囊

发布者：ISA Science City爱莎科学城 2021-09-10 18:40:23

With the first weeks of the new school year over, there are sure to be many emotions you feel as parents. Relief that we as parents have our children back at school! Perhaps some concern on how our child is settling into new classes with new teachers and new friends. If our children can talk to us about their day, we know that we can help them be happier and more successful as they learn.

新学年的初始两周已结束，作为家长的您或许有诸多感触。一方面，对于孩子重返校园感到欣慰，另一方面也会产生些许担忧：孩子能否适应新班级、新老师和新同学？假如孩子在回家后能够与您谈论他在学校度过的一天，那作为家长的您便可以更好地帮助他们在学习过程中收获快乐与成功。

As parents one of the very important things to consider when school starts is that your child brings their ‘narrative’ home every day. Feelings like tiredness and hunger can hugely influence a young persons’ mood when telling their story. This changes what they tell you and how they might tell you at that time.

作为家长，刚开学时需要考虑的一件非常重要的事是：鼓励您的孩子每天把他的“故事”带回家分享。然而，当孩子处于疲劳或饥饿的状态时，大概率他们不会有太多心情与您分享“故事”，同时也会影响他们的分享形式与内容。因此，在鼓励您孩子分享之前，有几个小锦囊供您参考：

Tip #1

Feed them before or while discussing their day!

让孩子在饱餐后或正在进餐时与您分享一天的经历！

Tip #2

A great way to develop empathy in a family is by gently questioning our child after they have told you their version of the day about how other people were affected or might feel. What might have been going on for other students or the teacher at the time?

在家中培养孩子同理心的一个好方法是：在我们的孩子告诉您他们当天的情况后，温柔地询问他们关于身边人发生的事，例如，当时身边的同学或老师又发生了什么趣事呢？

Tip #3

Perhaps 3 questions at any one time are sufficient. Try and let them finish their story first without interrupting.

询问孩子的问题不需要太多，约莫三个即可。在询问之前尽量先让孩子完成他的故事分享，期间不要打断哦。

Most importantly, at least once a week, just ‘Be’ with your child in their world. Play with the Lego together, go for a walk or, have yum cha. No cellphone time, no school questions and no business calls! Just quality time together. Doing so will make your child more likely to open up about their time at school and eventually you will find that that you need not have to prompt them at all.

还有最重要的一点是，作为父母，家长应每周至少抽空一次与孩子在他们的世界“相处”，可以一起玩乐高积木、一起散步、一起享用下午茶。请确保这个陪伴时间仅属于家人，没有手机、作业和工作的打扰，享受单纯、高质量的亲子时光。慢慢地，您将会发现，即便不通过暗示，您的孩子也将变得越来越主动与您分享在学校发生的事情。

Author:

Mr. Graeme Martin

Student Services Team 学生服务团队

Mr. Graeme Martin

Student Services Coordinator

学生服务协调员

Graeme is an internationally registered counsellor with the IAC and has been counselling in New Zealand schools for 14 years. Graeme is passionate about supporting young people to set goals, understand choices and outcomes, then achieve to the best of their ability in a school context. He has been involved in career counselling and overseas university applications for the past five years while heading up Student Services at the Internationally respected Auckland Grammar. Registered as a teacher, Graeme’s original teaching subjects were in humanities in which he has a Bachelor of Arts. Graeme has a Masters in Business Administration plus post graduate diplomas in Teaching and Counselling and a certificate in Neuroscience applications to counselling. Through supporting Kickboxing and MMA fighters in recent years, Graeme has been able to further develop his understanding of counselling concepts like ‘resilience’ and working with ‘anxiety’. He has lived and worked in Japan, Singapore, Australia and England.

Graeme Martin以学生服务协调员这一重要职务身份加入爱莎科学城，成为了学校创校团队的一员。学生服务部门将密切关注学生需求的动向，提供咨询与支持服务，还将为学生提供未来就业发展指引，以及与大学申请相关的支持，对学生在校园内的发展起到至关重要的作用。在事业的起步期，Graeme作为人文与辅导老师踏入中学教育领域，目前已拥有25年的教育工作经验。Graeme拥有工商管理硕士学位(MBA)，他还在新西兰和澳大利亚的企业有相关工作经验。目前，Graeme是一名注册咨询师。在加入爱莎科学城之前，Graeme最近在公认的“南半球最好的学校”之一的奥克兰文法学校工作，担任学生服务体系的主要管理者。每年，这所享有盛誉的学校源源不断地为世界各地的顶尖一流大学输送优秀的毕业生。

Ms. Jinju Im

School Counsellor

学校辅导员

Jinju joined ISA Science City Internaitonal School as the School Counsellor at the beginning of August 2020. Jinju is a registered counsellor with the ACA. In Australia, she completed her Masters in Counselling and Psychotherapy. She had specialised training for supporting young people who had a traumatic childhood from forced immigration and domestic violence. Jinju very much enjoyed bringing positive changes to young people, and decided to continue developing her career working with young people. As a school counsellor, Jinju’s primary role is to promote the mental health of all students. Jinju is very much looking forward to offering support to students and staff in the classroom and through school activities.

Jinju于2020年8月初加入爱莎科学城学校，担任学校辅导员。Jinju是ACA的注册顾问。在澳大利亚，她完成了咨询和心理治疗硕士学位。她接受过专门的培训，帮助那些因被迫移民和家庭暴力而饱受创伤的年轻人。Jinju非常喜欢给年轻人带来积极的变化，并决定继续与年轻人一起发展她的事业。作为一名学校辅导员，Jinju的主要作用是促进所有学生的心理健康。Jinju非常期待在课堂和学校活动中为学生和教职员工提供支持。